Are you obsessed with what do others think about you? Do you have a life that revolves around seeking everyone's approval? Do you feel sad & low if someone disapproves of you? If you answered "yes" to any of those questions then my friend you suffer from what is called the Approval Addiction Syndrome.
If you keep concentrating ‘bout what others think of you and you run here & there to get their approval........then sooner or later, you will be running faster than you can, working harder than you can until you get exhausted. Soon, you will feel you can’t live up to everyone’s expectations. And then you will feel helpless, frustrated & depressed.
More often than not we do things to please others, as we feel it’s human to meet others expectations with you and it’s devilish to betray them. We please one person. Another one comes, we do something else to please him. Another, another, another....phew! The cycle goes on and on and on. And sooner we realize that we are not able to please everyone. And even if we are able to please most of the people, we are not happy with ourselves. Stop! Review yourself before that happens with you. Value your happiness.
There is a saying, “Please all, and you will please none”. And it’s more than true. We can’t please everyone around. And if someone is unhappy ‘bout me, someone doesn’t like me, it’s very much possible that I am doing something right still. It means I am being myself. And then it’s true that not everyone will like that. Be it.
Remember, You need to live life for yourself. Value what pleases you. Yes you have to keep others with you but that doesn’t mean that everyone around you have to be happy with you. Please few. Upset few also. :) There has to be a balance. And if you can’t make that balance between your people, you will have to compensate it with yourself. All will be happy, except you.
These are the few symptoms that may tell you that you are affected too:
• Feeling hurt by others’ thinking about you.
• Habitually comparing yourself to others.
• Trying to be competitive in the most ordinary situations.
• A nagging gumption that we aren’t important enough, or special enough.
• Trying to ‘impress’ important people.
• etc., etc., etc.
How many do you have?
Now the million dollar question............knowing all these why we do so still? The answer is Fear. We fear of being rejected. We fear of being discarded. We fear of being disapproved. We fear of others' cold responses to us if we fail to please them. We need to let go this fear. We need to free our mind from this botheration.
Remember, If we lose people because we couldn’t please them, don't be sad, they were never worth keeping.
I can’t help link to the following book titled “Approval Addiction” by Joyce Meyer. The book is exceptionally well and is worth reading.
So, If you are affected with this syndrome too, get yourself cured now. There is no medicine. All you need is to live for yourself. Be yourself.
Be yourself!!!
Friday, January 25, 2008
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
Global Warming : The ball in our court may not stay long
Check out the following video. It is Created to take a stand against the greatest threat our planet has ever faced, we call it "Global Warming". This video is being created & promoted by Earth Hour for a simple action of turning off the lights for one hour to deliver a powerful message about the need for action on global warming.
This simple act has already captured the hearts and minds of people all over the world. As a result, at 8pm on the 29 March, 2008 millions of people in some of the world’s major capital cities, including Copenhagen, Toronto, Chicago, Melbourne, Brisbane, Tel Aviv and Manila will unite and switch off for Earth Hour.
Today WE have the option of switching off the light, tomorrow may be a completely different story.
Can't help link to the following video. It's The Earth Song by Michael Jackson, talking 'bout the adverse effects of Deforestation...something which relates directly to global warming.
This post is just to give a brief idea about what future has for us. :)
This simple act has already captured the hearts and minds of people all over the world. As a result, at 8pm on the 29 March, 2008 millions of people in some of the world’s major capital cities, including Copenhagen, Toronto, Chicago, Melbourne, Brisbane, Tel Aviv and Manila will unite and switch off for Earth Hour.
Today WE have the option of switching off the light, tomorrow may be a completely different story.
Can't help link to the following video. It's The Earth Song by Michael Jackson, talking 'bout the adverse effects of Deforestation...something which relates directly to global warming.
This post is just to give a brief idea about what future has for us. :)
Sunday, January 13, 2008
Life of an Alarm Clock
Every night one goes to sleep, makes sure to re-set the alarm clock. One has to get up by a definite time. Night passes, sun rises, and the alarm goes...............@#$@#$@#$@#$&*^&*#@!@#$#.
But before it could take its one full breath, a hand (devilish) comes with 1000 eyes searching for it and in the next half second its dead. And this cycle continues every day.
Sounds familiar? I am talking of you only :). Wait wait wait, talking of Us. I am no exception.
That's the life of an alarm clock. Someone (someone because for me it has a life) who works every second throughout the night to make sure that he 'delivers' when demanded....and is killed so sadistically. But still every night we re-set him for the same. And every morning he is killed once again.
What does it reflect? On one hand if we think of an alarm clock, its one dedicated, honest, loyal, selfless creature. Someone who even after being footed, being hit doesn't say anything and keeps on doing what his duty is.
And on the other hand, if we think of Us..........? We use him, day after day, expect it to work without fail and when it works instead of giving it a prize, we hit it hard to silent it.
Strange na? It is not. It's how we are.
We are habituated of using things/people. We want them to work flawlessly without a single failure but when it comes to handling them, when it comes to understanding them, when it comes to rewarding them, we fail we neglect. All we want is that our purpose is served, rest who cares really? There are so many other thoughts that can be mentioned here but deciding to skip it. B’coz I am sure you are mature enough to understand those.
So, next time your alarm clock rings and you have to snooze/kill it, do it but do it with Love.Though there are few people who manage not to depend on alarm clocks. Yes it’s possible because everyone has a clock inside. Read this interesting post: http://andrewbrunelle.com/?p=167
Sunday, January 06, 2008
Saturday, January 05, 2008
Not Just Quotes, they mean Values.
I have been a person who loves collecting quotes. Collect not because they are big, but because they have depth. I have lost count on how many are stored in my mailbox, in my file system, bookmarked in my browsers, my notebooks, specially gifted quotes books....they are all over.
Just putting here few (very very few) of them. Some of them are written by me :">. Each of them holds value for me, else it wouldn't have been in my collection.
Here they go:
• Most collectors collect tangibles. As a quotation collector, I collect wisdom, life, invisible beauty, souls alive in Words.
• Every moment of life is worth a celebration. If you have not appreciated life and its precious moments, it is time to do so.
• Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning up to do afterward.
• He who wishes to secure the good of others, has already secured his own.
• I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure: which is: Try to please everybody.
• One who asks a question is a fool for five minutes; one who does not ask a question remains a fool forever.
• Without love, the rich and poor live in the same house.
• Treat everyone with politeness Even those who are rude to you, Not because they are not nice But because you are nicer.
• If you can't dare fight for the things you want, you will always be upset with yourself.
• Real friends are the ones who survive transitions between address books.
• Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.
• There is no point at which you can say, "Well, I'm successful now. I might as well take a nap." The moment you take, you will be crushed.
• The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which -- To burn. And it does hurt selecting the latter.
• Learn as much as you can while you are young, since life becomes too busy later.
• It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.
• To silence other, first be silent yourself.
• You can't keep everyone happy. If you try, you will be playing dishonest to few.
• Trusting God won't make the mountain smaller but it will make climbing easier.
• You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with, i.e. thyself.
• Sell your brawn and brain to the highest bidders but never put a price-tag on your heart and soul.
• If people are inferior of you then it means you have something which others are still dreaming of.
• An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything. But it has to be a 'Honest' one.
• "Life says 'yes' and gives u GOOD, says 'no' and gives u BETTER , says 'wait' and gives u the BEST"
• I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better. I look for honest reactions.
• Take risks: if you win, you will be happy; if you lose, you will be wise.
• Live. Love. Laugh.
• Being defeated is often temporary, giving it up what makes it permanent.
• Fool me once, shame on You; fool me twice, shame on ME.
• If you can't be happy where you are, it's a cinch you can't be happy where you aren't.
• Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.
• Laugh with, not at, others.
• Not everyone can become a great artist, but a great artist can come from any one.
• When the world says, "Give up", Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
• If you look at closely, more often than not, you will find the answer in the question itself.
• If thou are a master, be sometimes blind; if a servant, sometimes deaf.
• Great opportunities to help others seldom come, but small ones surround us every day.
• If you fill your heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow, you have no today to be thankful for.
• If you are still talking about what you did yesterday, you haven't done much today.
• Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.
• Become a 'Possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities - always see them, for they're always there
• Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it with high spirits.
• If you are running in the popular track, run faster & overtake. Otherwise run in a different direction, the whole world will follow you.
• Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today? Today is a gift. That's why we call it the 'Present'. Unwrap it!
• Try not; Do or Do Not. There is no try.
• If the child is not learning the way you are teaching, then you must teach in the way the child learns.
• Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so love the people who treat you right & forget the ones that don't and believe that everything happens for A reason.
• Before you speak, listen. Before you write, think. Before you spend, earn. Before you criticize, wait. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try. Before you retire, save. Before you die, give.
• When you ask others 'why?', ask yourself 'why not?'. Most of the questions will be answered automatically.
• Life's battles don't always go to the stronger or faster person. But sooner or later, the one who wins, Is the one who thinks he can. Believe in yourself.
• Winning doesn't always mean being first, winning means you're doing better than you've done before.
• It is not what you gather but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived. Spread light, joy, freshness & smiles.
• Life is like a rainbow. You need both the sun and the rain to make its colors appear.
• There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.
• The smallest good deed is better than the grandest intention.
• Minds are like parachutes, they function only when open.
• Don't learn safety rules by accident.
• We lie the loudest when we lie to ourselves.
• Always have a positive attitude in life. There is something positive in every person. Even a stopped watch is right twice a day.
• Never be proud nor depressed for what you are, and the position in society you hold. Remember, "After the game is over King and Pawn go in the same box."
• When you are criticized, don't get upset. Remember that "No stones are thrown at a fruitless tree."
one for your smiles :)
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• If your lips are extended beyond your nose then you are about to do something rude after reading this message and then laugh on yourself.
Just putting here few (very very few) of them. Some of them are written by me :">. Each of them holds value for me, else it wouldn't have been in my collection.
Here they go:
• Most collectors collect tangibles. As a quotation collector, I collect wisdom, life, invisible beauty, souls alive in Words.
• Every moment of life is worth a celebration. If you have not appreciated life and its precious moments, it is time to do so.
• Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning up to do afterward.
• He who wishes to secure the good of others, has already secured his own.
• I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure: which is: Try to please everybody.
• One who asks a question is a fool for five minutes; one who does not ask a question remains a fool forever.
• Without love, the rich and poor live in the same house.
• Treat everyone with politeness Even those who are rude to you, Not because they are not nice But because you are nicer.
• If you can't dare fight for the things you want, you will always be upset with yourself.
• Real friends are the ones who survive transitions between address books.
• Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.
• There is no point at which you can say, "Well, I'm successful now. I might as well take a nap." The moment you take, you will be crushed.
• The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which -- To burn. And it does hurt selecting the latter.
• Learn as much as you can while you are young, since life becomes too busy later.
• It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.
• To silence other, first be silent yourself.
• You can't keep everyone happy. If you try, you will be playing dishonest to few.
• Trusting God won't make the mountain smaller but it will make climbing easier.
• You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with, i.e. thyself.
• Sell your brawn and brain to the highest bidders but never put a price-tag on your heart and soul.
• If people are inferior of you then it means you have something which others are still dreaming of.
• An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything. But it has to be a 'Honest' one.
• "Life says 'yes' and gives u GOOD, says 'no' and gives u BETTER , says 'wait' and gives u the BEST"
• I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better. I look for honest reactions.
• Take risks: if you win, you will be happy; if you lose, you will be wise.
• Live. Love. Laugh.
• Being defeated is often temporary, giving it up what makes it permanent.
• Fool me once, shame on You; fool me twice, shame on ME.
• If you can't be happy where you are, it's a cinch you can't be happy where you aren't.
• Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.
• Laugh with, not at, others.
• Not everyone can become a great artist, but a great artist can come from any one.
• When the world says, "Give up", Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
• If you look at closely, more often than not, you will find the answer in the question itself.
• If thou are a master, be sometimes blind; if a servant, sometimes deaf.
• Great opportunities to help others seldom come, but small ones surround us every day.
• If you fill your heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow, you have no today to be thankful for.
• If you are still talking about what you did yesterday, you haven't done much today.
• Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.
• Become a 'Possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities - always see them, for they're always there
• Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it with high spirits.
• If you are running in the popular track, run faster & overtake. Otherwise run in a different direction, the whole world will follow you.
• Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today? Today is a gift. That's why we call it the 'Present'. Unwrap it!
• Try not; Do or Do Not. There is no try.
• If the child is not learning the way you are teaching, then you must teach in the way the child learns.
• Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so love the people who treat you right & forget the ones that don't and believe that everything happens for A reason.
• Before you speak, listen. Before you write, think. Before you spend, earn. Before you criticize, wait. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try. Before you retire, save. Before you die, give.
• When you ask others 'why?', ask yourself 'why not?'. Most of the questions will be answered automatically.
• Life's battles don't always go to the stronger or faster person. But sooner or later, the one who wins, Is the one who thinks he can. Believe in yourself.
• Winning doesn't always mean being first, winning means you're doing better than you've done before.
• It is not what you gather but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived. Spread light, joy, freshness & smiles.
• Life is like a rainbow. You need both the sun and the rain to make its colors appear.
• There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.
• The smallest good deed is better than the grandest intention.
• Minds are like parachutes, they function only when open.
• Don't learn safety rules by accident.
• We lie the loudest when we lie to ourselves.
• Always have a positive attitude in life. There is something positive in every person. Even a stopped watch is right twice a day.
• Never be proud nor depressed for what you are, and the position in society you hold. Remember, "After the game is over King and Pawn go in the same box."
• When you are criticized, don't get upset. Remember that "No stones are thrown at a fruitless tree."
• What other people do shouldn't affect you - we do things because of the kind of person we each want to be.
• When the strong help the weak, it makes us all stronger.
• The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.
• Do for others as you would have them do for you.
• Here is a simple rule of thumb for behaviour: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you; then grab the initiative and do it for them!
• You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
• It is the weak who are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong.
• Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slower to become angry.
• Most of the trouble in the world is caused by people wanting to be important.
• If you are bitter, it will eat you up and do you much more damage than the people who have hurt you.
• Everybody has something good inside them. Some hide it, some neglect it, but it is there. No one is Bad internally.
• The best index to a person’s character is (a) how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can’t fight back.
• If a man is gracious and courteous to strangers, it shows he is a citizen of the world, and that his heart is not an island, cut off from other lands, but a continent that joins to them.
one for your smiles :)
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• If your lips are extended beyond your nose then you are about to do something rude after reading this message and then laugh on yourself.
Tuesday, January 01, 2008
Windows Vista Service Pack 1 Available
SP1 is officially released:
You can either download it using the Windows Update or you can download the stand alone installer (434.50MB) from here:
http://download.microsoft.com/download/3/a/9/3a9b72c2-527d-4694-8a49-84c056d4c34d/Windows6.0-KB936330-X86-wave0.exe
Remember the warning as mentioned below.
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Here is the link from where you can Download Vista SP1 RTM (Yes it's the official version).
I have not yet tried this on my box, for while I am updating this post the SP1 is getting downloaded in parallel. I don't know what 'side-affects' this SP1 has on some tweaked Vista, but if you have a Legal copy, I think you won't wait till March end now to get SP1.
As I am not allowed to directly link to Microsoft SP1 link, hence providing the other link. This link describes the process of downloading the SP1 (.img file)
Vista SP1 Download Guide
Hope that will help you.
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Service Pack, Service Pack, Service Pack. Here is one more...Windows Vista Service Pack 1 Release Candidate 1.
Whenever a new software is out in the market, in a day or two, people start talking 'bout probable service packs. Nothing new, nothing surprising. A service pack is a patch for a software to fix/upgrade its features.
Since I installed Vista Ultimate on my notebook, I have been trying to play around with it. It has been more than 4-5 months doing so. Loved the interface, new improved way of navigation and lots of other things. I faced few issues too, but I always knew there would be Updates/SPs to fix those :).
We all have been hearing a lot of Vista Service Pack 1 getting released sooner or later, but it's not just out yet. People all around the world must be expecting it with wide eyes. Last night, I just Googled (my favorite activity) 'bout the latest news on Vista SP1 and Voila!...it's out. Not directly though, you need to do some registry tweaks (we call it Hacks in technical world). In the next 1 hour the Service Pack was up & running on my box. Though it's not the final version of the Service Pack, hence named Release Candidate (RC).
This Service Pack is available via Windows Update, but not normally. For this to be available in the list of available updates, one needs to add few registry keys. If you are good at flirting with registry keys just go Start->Regedit and play around. But be careful, registry hacks can create chaos in your operating system. So a safer & readymade option is to download the following file, which contains the needed registry keys in one command file. Just extract this zip and run the .cmd file within and done. File is already uploaded on a site here: http://www.ghacks.net/wp-content/uploads/2007/12/sp1rc_wuhack.zip
Once you are done with this, you need to run Windows Update (you can get this under Control Panel, or search it via the Start Menu Smart search box). Click on "Check for updates" on the left hand side.
Just go run it. The system will need to be restarted again and here is when the updates will be applied. This will take somewhere around 40minutes, rest depends on your hardware & software configurations.
Once installed, you can see the System Properties to verify that the service pack is installed. :) It always feels nice to be running the latest softwares with latest updates.
Enhancements (few I would like to key in here):
One of the major, Copy & Paste process. Vista has improved user interface and promises to provide users with various useful information. It does it gracefully well. But here is one place where it really gets stuck. In the normal Vista o/s, when you copy files to another location, vista goes one step ahead and 'calculates' the time needed to copy for showing you the copy progress statistics. Here is the hitch. The copy progress hangs many a times. And most of the times that is annoying, really. This service pack is supposed to fix it so that the copy will start immediately and calculations will be done parallely, with a much enhanced approach. I tried the same myself and really felt the difference in the 1st attempt only.
Other than that increased hardware support, security, network issue, BitLocker enhancements, etc. as documented in various resources.
Some other noticeable item changes too. Sure to mention that the Search item on the Start Menu goes out (thanks to Google's lawsuits). Though you can still access the same using Win+F or F3.
There are many other enhancements which can be found documented on the Microsoft site or other resources on the net.
Here is the Release notes for the Windows Vista Service Pack 1 Release Candidate: http://support.microsoft.com/default.aspx/kb/936330. Make sure to read it before installing.
Important Note, this is just an RC, the final SP is supposed to be released in the first quarter of 2008. And in order to install that you will need to Uninstall this RC manually. You can do it from the Control Panel->Programs & Features normally. Should you face any problem after installing the SP1 RC1, just uninstall it normally.
Hope this will help people have a preview of the most awaited Microsoft Windows Vista Service Pack 1.
WARNING: Those who are NOT running the Legal copy of Vista, DO NOT try this SP1 RC1, else have a hard time tweaking it again.
Keep looking for more patches/SPs. Happy hunting in this new year ahead.
Happy New Year 2008!
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